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Thanks for bothering to read this page. :-)
I am a gay male, artist, explorer, I love beauty, creativity, laughter, love, kindness. But I am a dom. Odd combination I guess. But then, I *am* odd, and proud of it.
I refuse to be a prude; sex is a fundamental part of nature, no less than sleeping or eating. This may well keep me out of the “in” crowds, but I prefer to be true to myself.
INFJ
Several years ago, I discovered the Keirsey Temperament Sorter. I took the test just for fun, read the results and pretty much forgot about it. Since then, over the years, I have taken the test a few times, and gotten the same result each time: INFJ, “Counselor”. INFJ is a subgroup of NF, Idealists. Here is what the site has to say…
NF – Idealists:
All Idealists (NFs) share the following core characteristics:
- Idealists are enthusiastic, they trust their intuition, yearn for romance, seek their true self, prize meaningful relationships, and dream of attaining wisdom.
- Idealists pride themselves on being loving, kindhearted, and authentic.
- Idealists tend to be giving, trusting, spiritual, and they are focused on personal journeys and human potentials.
- Idealists make intense mates, nurturing parents, and inspirational leaders.
Idealists, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self — always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination. And they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.
Idealists are sure that friendly cooperation is the best way for people to achieve their goals. Conflict and confrontation upset them because they seem to put up angry barriers between people. Idealists dream of creating harmonious, even caring personal relations, and they have a unique talent for helping people get along with each other and work together for the good of all. Such interpersonal harmony might be a romantic ideal, but then Idealists are incurable romantics who prefer to focus on what might be, rather than what is. The real, practical world is only a starting place for Idealists; they believe that life is filled with possibilities waiting to be realized, rich with meanings calling out to be understood. This idea of a mystical or spiritual dimension to life, the “not visible” or the “not yet” that can only be known through intuition or by a leap of faith, is far more important to Idealists than the world of material things.
Highly ethical in their actions, Idealists hold themselves to a strict standard of personal integrity. They must be true to themselves and to others, and they can be quite hard on themselves when they are dishonest, or when they are false or insincere. More often, however, Idealists are the very soul of kindness. Particularly in their personal relationships, Idealists are without question filled with love and good will. They believe in giving of themselves to help others; they cherish a few warm, sensitive friendships; they strive for a special rapport with their children; and in marriage they wish to find a “soulmate,” someone with whom they can bond emotionally and spiritually, sharing their deepest feelings and their complex inner worlds.
Idealists are relatively rare, making up no more than 15 to 20 percent of the population. But their ability to inspire people with their enthusiasm and their idealism has given them influence far beyond their numbers.
Princess Diana, Joan Baez, Albert Schweitzer, Bill Moyers, Eleanor Roosevelt, Mohandas Gandhi, Mikhael Gorbachev, and Oprah Winfrey are examples of Idealists.
INFJ – Counselors:
Counselors have an exceptionally strong desire to contribute to the welfare of others, and find great personal fulfillment interacting with people, nurturing their personal development, guiding them to realize their human potential. Although they are happy working at jobs (such as writing) that require solitude and close attention, Counselors do quite well with individuals or groups of people, provided that the personal interactions are not superficial, and that they find some quiet, private time every now and then to recharge their batteries. Counselors are both kind and positive in their handling of others; they are great listeners and seem naturally interested in helping people with their personal problems. Not usually visible leaders, Counselors prefer to work intensely with those close to them, especially on a one-to-one basis, quietly exerting their influence behind the scenes.Counselors are scarce, little more than one percent of the population, and can be hard to get to know, since they tend not to share their innermost thoughts or their powerful emotional reactions except with their loved ones. They are highly private people, with an unusually rich, complicated inner life. Friends or colleagues who have known them for years may find sides emerging which come as a surprise. Not that Counselors are flighty or scattered; they value their integrity a great deal, but they have mysterious, intricately woven personalities which sometimes puzzle even them.
Counselors tend to work effectively in organizations. They value staff harmony and make every effort to help an organization run smoothly and pleasantly. They understand and use human systems creatively, and are good at consulting and cooperating with others. As employees or employers, Counselors are concerned with people’s feelings and are able to act as a barometer of the feelings within the organization.
Blessed with vivid imaginations, Counselors are often seen as the most poetical of all the types, and in fact they use a lot of poetic imagery in their everyday language. Their great talent for language-both written and spoken-is usually directed toward communicating with people in a personalized way. Counselors are highly intuitive and can recognize another’s emotions or intentions – good or evil – even before that person is aware of them. Counselors themselves can seldom tell how they came to read others’ feelings so keenly. This extreme sensitivity to others could very well be the basis of the Counselor’s remarkable ability to experience a whole array of psychic phenomena.
Mohandas Gandhi, Sidney Poitier, Eleanor Roosevelt, Jane Goodall, Emily Bronte, Sir Alec Guiness, Carl Jung, Mary Baker Eddy, Queen Noor are examples of the Counselor Idealist (INFJ).
Much of the above fits – some does not – hardly surprising, as you cannot by any stretch of the imagination fit people into neat categories.
It is certainly true that I think cooperation is the best way to get along. I value, need harmony, peace. And discord makes me uncomfortable at best, physically ill when it escalates.
However, I am not a spiritual person, I have no faith in any “supreme being” or deity. In short, I am an atheist. And I have a very realistic view of the world, I feel. As I have told a few friends, my approach to life is this: life sucks, and not in a good way, so you have to make the best of what you have, and no waste time crying over what you don’t and cannot have. Enjoy what there is, while you can, for tomorrow, you may be run over by a bus.
There is a brief summary, along with an explanation of what the letters mean, here. See also Wikipedia.
As far as kinks go, I am into piss and cum swapping, in a big way. Yes, swapping. Odd for a dom, huh? But I did say I am odd, didn’t I? ;-)
If you’ve been attentive, you may have noticed that I refer to myself as a dom, not a Master. I am not into extreme regimented BDSM. I am more laid back and relaxed than that. I do expect and demand obedience and respect, for sure, but I also love to laugh, and cuddle too.
If all this seems interesting, talk to me. But make sure it fits. Also note that time zones matter, of course (no point if we’ll hardly ever be online and free at the same times). I am on US Eastern time, but a night owl: I am generally free late nights/early morning.
Slave and his Owner
Rules for a Sub
I was just reading one of the many sets of rules for slaves that can be found on the ‘net, specifically The McDade Principles. I was reminded, yet again, that what works in BDSM for any given person, or couple, or group, doesn’t necessarily work for all.
My own approach is far more relaxed. The rigid rules such as those given in that text just don’t suit my character. And aside from that, they are too much hard work, and sometimes, highly inconvenient. A sub/slave should make life easier, not harder – in my view.
I have four rules which are absolute. There are, in order of importance:
1. No lies, under any circumstances, or for any reason.
2. Respect, always. Respect is due to a sub for the gift of submission. But it is also expected and required.
3. If a sub has a question, it should be asked. It is far better to ask than to make assumptions and possibly fuck up.
4. Obedience, without question. And if obedience is not possible, there must be a good reason.
I have other rules, but they are not absolute, and will vary on circumstance. Sometimes they are simply not practical or even possible. In no specific order, some of them are:
- A sub will always address me as “sir”. Use of my name is permitted only in exceptional situations.
- The English language is not to be mangled, proper rules of capitalization, and use of pronouns is required (ie, a sub refers to himself as “me”, not “it”, and uses “I” not ‘i’).
- When standing still, a sub kneels to my left (never my right), within reach of my hand – unless this is not possible for some reason.
- A sub must make himself visually appealing and desirable. Minimal clothing, therefore, but dictated by the place/situation.
- When put on display, a sub must be fully erect.
- My piss and cum must never be wasted – unless I say otherwise. These are both gifts and must be cherished and desired.
- Physically, a sub’s primary focus must be my cock and balls (unless otherwise directed). If he is not otherwise occupied or ordered, a slave should attempt to place himself as close as he can to my groin, thus indicating his readiness to serve and please.
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I love to laugh, so wit and humor are encouraged. But the rules given initially always apply, and specifically: respect.
And now a side issue. Many of the texts on slave rules talk about a slave/sub living to serve and obey their owners. Few of them however, mention that a slave/sub has needs too. All humans have them, and for a relationship to succeed, they should be met. And most certainly understood and acknowledged.
A sub is an altruist: his pleasure derives from giving pleasure. (Thus a form a punishment is that of depriving him of the ability to please, by locking him up.) Therefore, a Master/owner should understand that is is not simply a sub’s role to please, but it is also his need. So when I wrote above that a sub should make it clear that he wishes to please,this means that he does it not only for the sake of his owner, but for himself as well. As a specific example, the sub must literally crave his owner’s cock, his piss and cum. If he acts out of a sense of duty rather than out of need, then something is wrong – at least in my view.
